We are curious. We are loving. We are unconventional. And this is how we do.
👋 We strive for authenticity
We're not afraid to put ourselves out there by authentically representing who we are and to hold the space for our fellow members to do the same. We take an active part in co-creating a trust-based environment that we all cherish and want to see flourish. We present ourselves on a first name and pronouns basis and add a face photo, a mini-bio, a location and a quick introduction to our app profile.
🏳️🌈 We like it inclusive
We're actively inclusive in our communication and challenge all forms of offensive or unwelcome comments and behaviours related to race, gender identity and expression, sexual orientation, disability, mental illness, neuro(a)typicality, physical appearance, body size, religion, lifestyle choices and practices, including those related to food, health, parenting, drugs and employment. Our pronouns into bracket go in the "last name" field of our app profile.
💗 We relate organically
We seek organic connections that spark from conversation-focused group experiences where we're kind to each other and observe a friendship first approach, curious and loving with all. Although direct messaging (DM) in app is technically possible with anyone, we use it only as a mean to chat with members we've interacted with at events or via app posts or comments and who have explicitly consented. Unsolicited DMs is a big no that will see the author member revoked on the spot.
💧 We welcome fluidity
We are sex-positive but not sex-focused. We understand that identity, needs and wants are fluid, complex, and always evolving. We do not make any assumption as to other members and acknowledge that we all have full agency and autonomy over ourselves, our bodies and boundaries and no one is to threaten or take that from another. We agree that consent can be tricky, but especially sexy so we keep it in check!
✨ We share because we care
We are committed to contributing constructively because the more we do, the more all of us get out of LVRSNFRNDS. We know how it feels to be a bit hesitant to share and want all of us to feel comfortable to share generously. We listen and read attentively, don't judge or shame, show empathy, gratitude, push each other forward and lift each other up. We are well aware that our questions, stories, and experiences may be exactly what another member needs to hear.
🐛 We embrace weirdness
We leave no space for judgement, we approach difference as a practice for communication and want all of us to be comfortable to be their authentic self, quirks and all. We celebrate each other, we encourage each other to embrace their weirdness and we nurture a positive space where humour and gentleness are the best lubricant to rich and beautiful conversations where being vulnerable makes us stronger. We like it weird so much that we even have this weird sign below* to show excitement, agreement, encouragement.
🤫 We keep things private
Our membership is private** and Chatham House rules apply: "participants are free to use the information received, but neither the identity nor the affiliation of the speaker(s)/author(s), nor that of any other participant, may be revealed". We do speak about LVRSNFRNDS to non members, from our own experience. Needless to say: giving access to our private content or events to non members or sharing the identity of a fellow member are a big no.
📣 We own this
We take ownership of how we treat and care for everyone and everything LVRSNFRNDS. We are determined to break out from the toxicity one encounters elsewhere and have a zero-tolerance policy for any comment or behaviour that is disrespectful, discriminatory, threatening or harassing. We strive to speak up when necessary and listen with a growth mindset when being called in assured that all decisions are made by our ad hoc member committee.
🚀 We are on a mission
We are on a mission to transform the experience of questioning and exploring relationships from a lonely one into one imbued by community support, personal development and constructive social impact. We happily use the confidence we build and what we learn at LVRSNFRNDS in our interactions with the world out there and actively seek to make it a better place for all, one conversation at a time.
* Caution: you may feel like doing it during work meetings and family reunions too. And it's OK! We also use the classic heart-shape handsign to show support.
** If your non members lovers and friends would like to join us, there are 2 options: you can invite them to attend an open house event or to join us via our referral program.
This is a living document, and subject to refinement and expansion in the future. Direct message us if you would like to help us improve it.
Created January, 25 2020 - from former "Etiquette" and "Requirements" sections.