We are on a mission to transform the experience of questioning and exploring identity and relationships from a lonely one into one imbued by community support, personal development, and constructive social impact, one conversation at a time.
We are curious. We are loving. We are unconventional. And this is how we aspire to live curiously ever after...
👋 We strive for authenticity
We're not afraid to put ourselves out there by authentically representing who we are.
We hold the space for our fellow members to have conversations they could not have with some of their friends.
We take an active part in co-creating a trust-based environment that we all cherish and want to see flourish.
🏳️🌈 We are diverse & inclusively exclusive
We see diversity as a strength, inclusion as the way to go, and exclusivity as a necessary evil.
We're actively inclusive in our communication and challenge all forms of offensive or unwelcome comments and behaviors related to race, gender identity and expression, sexual orientation, disability, mental illness, neuro(a)typicality, physical appearance, body size, religion, lifestyle choices and practices, including those related to food, health, parenting, drugs and employment.
💗 We relate organically
We are sex-positive but not sex-focused. We connect people who get what's behind this key distinction.
We seek organic connections that spark from conversation-focused group experiences where we're kind to each other and observe a friendship first approach, curious and loving with all.
💧 We welcome fluidity
We understand that identity, needs and wants are fluid, complex, and always evolving.
We strive to make no assumptions as to other members and acknowledge that we all have full agency and autonomy over ourselves, our bodies and boundaries and no one is to threaten or take that from another.
We agree that consent can be tricky, but especially sexy so we keep it in check!
✨ We share because we care
We want to be the place one can have conversations they could not have elsewhere.
We are committed to contributing constructively because the more we do, the more all of us get out of LVRSNFRNDS.
We know how it feels to be a bit hesitant to share and want all of us to feel comfortable to share generously. We listen and read attentively, don't judge or shame, show empathy, gratitude, push each other forward, and lift each other up.
We are well aware that our questions, stories, and experiences may be exactly what another member needs to hear.
🐛 We embrace weirdness
We are here to grow together and at our own individual pace, embracing who we are, quirks and all.
We leave no space for judgment, we approach difference as a practice for communication and want all of us to be comfortable to be our authentic selves.
We celebrate each other, we encourage each other to embrace their weirdness and we nurture a positive space where humor and gentleness are the best lubricants to rich and beautiful conversations where being vulnerable makes us stronger. We like it weird so much that we even have this weird sign below* to show excitement, agreement, encouragement.
🤫 We keep things private
We do speak about LVRSNFRNDS to non-members, from our own experience.
Our membership is private** and Chatham House rules apply: "participants are free to use the information received, but neither the identity nor the affiliation of the speaker(s)/author(s), nor that of any other participant, may be revealed".
We don't give access to our private content or events to non-members unless we're explicitly encouraged to.
📣 We own this
We are not products, LVRSNFRNDS is not in the business of eyeballs.
We take ownership of how we treat and care for everyone and everything LVRSNFRNDS.
We are determined to break out from toxic cultures and have a zero-tolerance policy for any comment or behavior that is disrespectful, discriminatory, threatening or harassing.
We strive to speak up when necessary and listen with a growth mindset when being called in assured that all decisions are community-based.
How to speak up? Go to lvrsnfrnds.com/speakup.
What happens when you speak up? Check out our page on:
* Caution: you may feel like doing it during work meetings and family reunions too. And it's OK! We also use the classic heart-shaped hand sign to show support.
** If your non members lovers and friends would like to join us, there are 2 options: you can invite them to attend an open house event or to join us via our referral program.
This is a living document last updated on May 19, 2021, subject to refinement and expansion in the future. Direct message us if you would like to help us improve it.