3 min read - last updated April 16, 2021
💬 Use the app
Once your gathering is added to the Events section you will receive an alert as we tagged you in its description. Check it out (let us know if we need to update anything) and comment with anything you think would be useful to share with your future guests (resources, stories, questions, etc.). An active thread on your gathering should bring more attendees!
🏡 Make yourself at home
Right before the gathering, you may want to have a notepad or anything you'd find useful to take notes. It can be a good idea to free some time before and after the gathering to wind down, enter the session with your favourite hot drink, anything that will make you feel good.
❤️ Never forget
We know the experience can be stressful. Remember that we are a friendly community, your fellow members are joining from a place of kindness and curiosity, and will hold a safe space where you can be vulnerable as you would do for them.
Making the most of it
🌹 We got your back
A member of the LVRSNFRNDS team will be on call during your gathering, you can direct message Team LVRSNFRNDS at any time if you need help.
⏰ 60 minutes (or else if you prefer)
Conversations can unfold as follows:
- use the first 5 minutes to welcome new members "Anyone new? Is there anything we could help you with? Or you'd rather hear us speak about the weather?",
- you can then start by introducing yourself, your motivation for having this conversation, and start the chat,
- there may be a silence at some point, it's OK, embrace this moment;
- conversation follows until you have 5 minutes left to wrap up.
About the rose, thorn & bud icebreaker
"Reflect on your rose, thorn, and bud. Share them if you want! 🌹 = A highlight, success, small win, or something positive. 🗡 = A challenge or something you can use more support with. 🌱 = New ideas or something you are looking forward to."
'Consider this like hopping on the phone with friends.' — Sophie
🤗 Own the conversation
You run this show. Make guests feel welcome to speak or listen without pressure. Feel free to ask for context, clarification, any question that invite others to open up and share. Make sure everyone has a chance to share.
🎯 Stay focused (if you want to)
Recenter the conversation if you feel like it's not addressing your question. Rephrase your question if you feel like it. You can always let your guests know that any interesting questions raised can be used to submit another gathering.
🙅♀️ Remember you can always pass
Be prepared to receive challenging questions, it's OK to pass. Practice saying things like "Thank you for your question but I don't feel like answering this right now."
⏱ Keep an eye on the clock
Mind the time if you want to make the most of this conversation but remember not to stress too much about it as you'll always have the possibility to submit another gathering on the same topic (or not!).
✌️ Wrap-up and say good bye
To wrap-up, think about asking: "What did we discuss?", "How are we feeling?", "What's our take-away?" And to say good bye, you can use a simple "Thank you and good bye LVRSNFRNDS!"
💗 Take care
Aftercare is key here as these conversations can be triggering. If we can help you in any way, feel free to reach out. We're always happy to hear from you.
💌 Stay in touch
If you'd like to contact someone present to thank them for their support or keep the conversation going about something they said, get in touch later via the app chat (if OK with their DM rule, if not sure, direct message Team LVRSNFRNDS).
🤙 Do it again
Did you enjoy it? Would you like to discuss further the question you asked? A question that arised during the conversation? Or something else? Ask another question!
This is a living document subject to refinement and expansion in the future. Direct message us if you would like to help us improve it.
Update January 26, 2021 - updated based on our new app.
Update April 16, 2021 - updated following new gathering descriptions with icebreaker and housekeeping rules.
Update June 30, 2021 - updated following introduction of the question box.